Grief, a painful, normal, human response to significant loss, is ever so unique, as the worst kind of grief is yours. Every relationship holds a special and unique significance to us, that is why grief is so personal. Everyone grieves in their own, unpredictable way and on their own schedule and it will be finished when it’s finished. “He who has no time to mourn, has no time to mend.” The best advice anyone can give is to feel what you feel and know you will get through this.
During the first 30 days of grieving the loss of a loved one, you will experience your own version of the five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Their pain is over, and now yours begins. Though this may be one of the most difficult times in your life, acknowledging your feelings and relying on support can help you face this journey and get through it, moment by moment and day by day. The death of a loved one is one of life’s biggest stressors. Whether the death of a loved one was sudden or expected, you may feel like you're in a fog of grieving, unable to function cognitively or remember simple things. This is a common emotional response that helps you cope with the trauma of your loss.
We know firsthand what you are going through; you are not and will never be alone in this! The arrangements are finished. Life must go on….so we are told. But, it is so hard!! Life pushes us forward, but feel stuck in one spot. STOP!!! Breathe!!! Grieve!!!
You have a friend in us. We are not just here during the immediate time of the loss of a loved one; we are different. As we promise, we are here to walk with you on your grief journey and here to help you cope and eventually heal. A “journey” is defined as traveling from one place to another, normally over a long period of time. So as you travel this journey to reach your destination of healing, know we are here and as hard as it may be, take time to grieve and remember there is no set time limit.
As you travel on this journey, nothing we say can fix your grief, but know that you have friends and professional guides in us; you are never alone. Remember effective grief work is not done alone…. we will be your guide and are here to listen, understand, and care for you and your family with the upmost tenderness and compassion. Most importantly, the specific needs of your family are met with dignity and respect, exceeding your expectations. Our calling is to walk with you through your journey and to provide you with exceptional service and compassionate care; being intricate in helping you cope and eventually heal.
May the God who loves you bless you and console you always.
Michael and Laura Goodlander